"Monica, you're so confident and sure of yourself."
Someone recently said that to me, which of course felt nice to hear...then quickly followed by a sense of dread that I'd be found out as a total fraud: "OMG, if they only saw the mess I've been trying to get my $h!t together."
(Ask the hubby and kids. 😬)
So it got me thinking: what exactly does confidence mean?
By definition, confidence is "a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities."
So on the surface level, confidence can appear to be someone who has an unwavering conviction of their own beliefs and abilities. They don't appear to doubt who they are, are unapologetically themselves even when they're judged or criticized, and carry on with a sense of purpose and direction.
But when you dig a little deeper, there's another important distinction to be made.
Because in fact, true confidence isn't about loving everything about yourself and your life.
Confidence is also about being truthfully vulnerable about how you really feel in times of darkness, owning your strengths and weaknesses, and knowing when to ask for help.
It's about recognizing that you will never have all the answers, and it's OK as long as you stay curious in the learning process.
It's about acknowledging everyone has their own unique gifts and talents that they're cultivating, and their success will never take away from your own.
Most importantly, it's about staying grounded and compassionate with yourself and others during times of adversity, because you have the courage to say: "We're all in this together, let's figure it out."
I don't know what this 'confidence' thing that's seemingly being projected, but I know these are values I believe in and where I strive to operate from most days.
Hot mess and all.
So if you ever find yourself in a place where you're unsure of yourself, dig into your own values. Recognize and be proud of how you live and work in congruence with them.
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And remember, if you're doing your best to live in your truth, that's something you can always be confident in.